Engaging Men Conference 2017


9:45-10:30 Full Group Session 1

Nuts and Bolts of Engaging Men

Vollum Lounge (2nd floor)

Particularly in light of an increase in focus on primary prevention in the field of sexual assault prevention, attention to engaging men has increased exponentially. Not surprisingly, this has led to significant tension and uncertainty about men's roles in the movement, particularly in leadership and paid positions. Through presentation, dialogue, and interaction, participants in this workshop will examine the potential benefits and challenges of engaging men in this work, investigate the complex and varied motivations for men's involvement, and discuss steps that organizations can take in considering whether and how to involve men in advancing organizational missions.

Patrick Lemmon: For nearly 25 years, I have been striving to create the world I want to live in -one in which gender equity is a reality, and men's violence is only a memory. Whether helping male students in high school or college to create their own understandings of what it means to be a man, supporting prevention educators in developing and evaluating their programming, or working with communities to decide how to move from vision to action in ending violence, I focus on aspirational and positive efforts that affirm the role that each of us can play.

10:30-11:45 Breakout Session 1: Starting at the Beginning

Patriarchy 101

Room CC110

In this workshop, we will be reviewing some past slides so you won't make the same tired mistakes discussing patriarchy that often burden femmes. We will also discuss microaggression; social capital (what it is, and how it often silences those who come forward with abuse); and why it's important to take leaderships from femmes of color; (especially disabled, trans, black, and low-income) those who continue to be disenfranchised by systems of patriarchy

May Cat is a facilitator, artist, panelist, storyteller, and community builder with a background in education, equity, and inclusion support. She studied Fine Arts and Design on a full-tuition scholarship at the Cooper Union in NYC, and grew up in Chicago. She is on the planning committee for New Year in the Park, an annual Southeast Asian cultural festival in Portland dedicated to fostering cultural traditions; she also co-produces Men's Assembly for Collective Accountability, a femme-led community panel that explores racial and gender-based violence.

Lydia Grijalva (they or she) has been involved in education, activism, and nonprofit work on the west coast for 15 years, and has been working in independent publishing in Portland for 4 years. Since moving to Portland in 2013, they have been involved in a variety of community projects. Their background blends together a variety of disciplines: from theatre, music, photography, and creative writing, to environmental science, political science, and child development science. Lydia's lifelong experiences being poor, Latinx (Chican@), queer, disabled/chronically ill, and formerly houseless have fueled their lifelong motivation to contribute to a variety of social justice efforts. No matter what projects they're involved in, Lydia works to increase accessibility and break barriers that silence oppressed folks. Lydia is the Interim Executive Director for Know Your City, co-leads the Alberta Free Hutch, and PDX Men's Assembly for Collective Accountability.

Gender Diversity and Transgender identities

Room CC116

In this workshop participants will examine:

  • The idea of gender as binary
  • Feminism and social constructs
  • Gender as performed
  • Gender as a continuum
  • Gender as fluid
  • We will talk about daily structural struggles, and how it's different from sexuality. We will discuss transitioning, presenting, passing, and not outing folks. Participants will be led through some reflection on their own gender constructs. Lastly, we will talk about different methods of alliance, solidarity and support for trans communities.

    Anna Vo is a local social worker, educator, and artist.

    Panel: Relationships and Masculinity

    Vollum Lounge (2nd floor)

    Engaging males in violence prevention work requires skill and dedication. Even more, engaging males from their own cultural perspectives, is enhanced through understanding, wisdom, and humility. This session offers insights from those providing both while offering practical skills and advice for attendees who wish to further their practices with males.

    Armin Tolentino is a program specialist for Multnomah County. His role includes aligning practices throughout the Schools Uniting Neighborhoods (SUN) Service System. He has 12 years of experience in various education and human services fields including high school special education, sexual and domestic violence prevention, and youth development. He received his BS in chemistry from The College of New Jersey and his MFA in creative writing at Rutgers.

    Dr. Bruce Smith currently is Dean of Students at Reed College, providing operational management as well as strategic leadership for the various departments in the student services division. Before serving as Dean, Bruce was Associate Dean of Students for Student and Campus Life, partnering across campus to manage out of classroom learning and engagement opportunities. Prior to this position, Bruce was Assistant Dean of Student Services for Inclusion, Engagement, and Success at Reed, where he worked with Reed students, staff, and faculty to encourage the development of inclusive learning communities.

    Jimena has a background in Community Psychology and Women's Studies, and currently teaches social justice full time. She has focused her research on teaching practices, power dynamics in heterosexual relationships, and psychiatric stigma. She shares all her teaching materials on a free online platform.

    Bart Church has been organizing men's wellness classes, support & activity groups for more than 30 years. He founded & managed a men's wellness organization called Integrated Healing for 8 years in Washington, DC that offered yoga, nutrition, and healing touch classes. He then founded and was Executive Director & Program Director for 9 years of Manifest Men's Wellness Community, which offered a wide variety of men's support, activity, & education groups & classes designed to help men to prevent & overcome chronic illnesses that disproportionately impact men, including heart disease, cancer, HIV, diabetes, depression, and addiction. Bart also helped found & manage a men's wellness residential community called the Men's Vision House which empowered men to support one another in gardening, cooking, cleaning, and supporting one another's visions in an intentional community focused on wellness, sustainability, & mindfulness.

    12:30-2:00 Full Group Session 2

    Ending Gender Based Violence is Men's Work: How Male Allies can Frontline the Fight Against Systems of Oppression

    Vollum Lounge (2nd floor)

    2:15-3:15 Breakout Session 2: Digging in

    Social Media as a Prevention Tool

    Room CC110

    This panel and presentation will explore the opportunities as well as challenges in using different social media platforms as part of our work in ending gender-based violence. We will discuss some examples of how social media are already being used to raise awareness, especially men's consciousness around these issues. Both personal and broader political experiences in social media will be highlighted by our speakers.

    Nick Guerrero, Prevention Education Coordinator ; Raised by his feminist mother, Nick started volunteering at UC Santa Cruz Rape Prevention Education, an experience which set his trajectory both personally and professionally. He has worked at Raphael House of Portland since 2008, first as a Youth Advocate in shelter, and now as the Prevention Education Coordinator. Nick is also a founding member of a community group called MEN (Men Engaging Now) that specifically engages men and male-identified individuals in ending gender-based violence.

    Julia Kohn-Brown has been working with the Raphael House of Portland, doing sexual violence prevention for three years. She is dedicated to justice with a particular focus on the intersections of rape and diet culture. She feels through exploration of embodiment and body trust through a social justice lens point we can movetowards a world with safety, choice and freedom for all.

    Zane Hanayneh is a 19-year-old queer Jordanian American. Zane is currently a student at Portland Community College who aspires to study neurology in the future and enjoys creating dialogues about equity who hopes to be involved with as much social justice activism as Zane can.

    Quetzal Brock Rivero is a 21-year-old Chicano artist and Portland native. He attends school at Portland Community College and spends his time focused on his artwork and recovery.

    Panel: Raising Feminist Sons

    Room CC116

    In this panel discussion you will hear from professionals and parents how to engage sons of all ages to understand the importance of feminism in everyday lives.

    Dr. Bruce Smith (see Relationships and Masculinity)

    Christy Campbell is a middle school counselor and mom of 2 children

    Lisa Frack is parent to a 14-year-old son (9th grade) and an 11-year-old daughter(6th grade). Her goal is to raise them both to be strong feminists who are committed to respecting themselves and those around them - including their partners! Lisa serves as the board president of the Oregon chapter of the National Organization for Women (NOW) and played a role in updating the Portland Public Schools' student dress code to be gender and race neutral starting in the 2016-17 school year. While her son does not claim to be a feminist (because he thinks the word is not accurate - and no doubt absorbs cultural messages about it), he espouses all its tenets. Teaching her kids how to live them is her focus and challenge in a patriarchal society that regularly sends the opposite message.

    Dr. Ron Clark is the minister for the Agape Church of Christ in Portland and an adjunct teacher at Portland Seminary. He has served on the Village Coalition, the Oregon Attorney General's Sexual Assault Task Force,the Portland Wrestling Official's Association, and other county intimate partner violence agencies. He is the author of Am I Sleeping With the Enemy? and other journal publications concerning masculinity and faith communities. He and Lori, who are major Duck fans,have been married 30 years and recently published The Marriage Table. They have three sons ages 25, 14, and 12 and a wonderful daughter in law.

    Engaging Men Who Have Been Abusive

    Vollum Lounge (2nd floor)

    In this workshop, we will hear from a panel of survivors and people who have been abusive discuss the ways they engage the community through presentations and impact panels and the challenges and benefits of working together from both sides of the coin. The panelists will cover different parts of the DVSD (Domestic Violence Safe Dialogue) including survivor impact panels, speakers workshops and speaking engagements.

    Matt Johnston, LPC has worked as the Program Director of Domestic Violence Safe Dialogue (DVSD) since 2013. He has worked in the battering intervention field since 2002, working withmen convicted of domestic violence offenses and men whose partners have required them to attend intervention programs. DVSD has three main parts: providing safe environments for survivors and offenders who have no previous relationship to have individual dialogues to help the survivor heal; facilitating the DV Survivor Impact Panels for Multnomah, Washington, and Columbia counties; and facilitating the Speakers Workshop, which has survivors and offenders working together to practice public speaking about their personal experiences with domestic violence and then organizing panels for community partners (DHS,probation, churches, etc.). Matt also serves on the Board of Survivor Collective Alliance Reaching Society (SCARS), which seeks to create a community of survivors by survivors for survivors and also seeks to inform systems of survivor perspectives on the systems that affect them.

    3:30-4:30 Breakout session 3: Inwards and Outwards

    Mindful Self-Compassion

    Room CC110

    Based on the groundbreaking research of Kristin Neff and the clinical expertise of Christopher Germer, Mindful Self-Compassion teaches core principles and practices that enable participants to respond to difficult moments in their lives with kindness, care and understanding. Self-Compassion can be learned by anyone.

    The three key components of self-compassion are self-kindness, a sense of common humanity and balanced, mindful awareness. Kindness opens our hearts to suffering so we can give ourselves what we need. Common humanity opens us to our essential interrelatedness so that we know we aren't alone. Mindfulness opens us to the present moment, so we can accept our experience with greater ease. Together they comprise a state of warm-hearted, connected presence.

    Rapidly expanding research demonstrates that self-compassion is strongly associated with emotional wellbeing, less anxiety, depression and stress, maintenance of healthy habits such as diet and exercise, and satisfying personal relationships. And it's easier than you think.

    Jill Goldsmith is an attorney, mediator and Trained Teacher of Mindful Self Compassion. Jill has also served on the Council of the West Women's Shelter. In her professional life, Jill works with people in conflict,helping them to see a path forward. Part of that practice is to understand our own triggers and habits in conflict, which is where mindful self compassion helps us by allowing us to turn to our difficult feelings with compassionate attention. If we can understand our own needs and work skillfully with our reactive patterns instead of our usual habit of self criticism, we encounter the potential of our own growth.

    Panel: Intercultural Collaboration and Culturally Specific Work in Ending Gender Based Violence

    Room CC116

    Engaging men and boys in violence prevention work requires skill and dedication. Engaging men with consideration to cultural backgrounds is enhanced through understanding, wisdom, and humility. This session will center the perspectives of 3 professionals who have worked to end gender-based violence with men and boys in Latinx, Native American, and African American communities and offer practical skills and advice for attendees who wish to further their ability to engage men and be more aware of the nuances of culture. There will also be time for an open Q&A.

    Blanca S. Villalobos is Project UNICA's SexualAssault Prevention & Education Coordinator. For the past seven years, she has worked with various communities of color, specifically Latinx youth, with the intention of holding space for healing and empowerment. As a culturally specific Preventionist, Villalobos works toward providing a safe space for youth to celebrate their culture while working collectively on ways to prevent gender based violence in the community. She is also the founder of the local queer Latinx collective, Pochas Radicales, a group of folks dedicated to uplifting themselves and community through art & activism.

    Tim Logan is the Agency Administrator for SoValTi, a batterer intervention counseling program for African American/Biracial men and women. Mr. Logan has nearly 30 years of experience managing, facilitating and counseling group sessions with youth and adults. His experience includes extensive work in the public education and social justice systems.

    Daniel Guilfoyle, a Seneca, grew up in Rochester,New York, not too far from the Allegheny reservation where his father was born and much of his family still lives today. He moved to Portland eleven years ago after living in San Francisco and Los Angeles, to support the opening of an Early College Academy at the Native American Youth and Family Center. During his time at the NAYA Early College Academy, Daniel worked to support youth, their families, and their diverse Native American and Alaska Native cultures while they

    Panel: How Activists Engage Their Own Communities

    Vollum Lounge (2nd floor)

    There are plenty of books and guidelines on how to deal with domestic violence if it is happening to you or if it is happening in your family, but what can you do if it is instead happening in your community? How can communities intervene with domestic violence effectively including engaging men in this process? This panel workshop will offer some suggestions and guidelines as well as one example of how a local activist community took on this challenge a couple years ago.

    Duncan Zevetski is an organizer for Rose City Redneck Revolt. Redneck Revolt is committed to ending white supremacy and capitalism by organizing in spaces traditionally seen as hostile to radical ideas. We are a national network of working and poor people devoted to community defense and mutual aid. We strive to be a counter narrative to racist, white supremacist organizations and ideologies who have been given free rein in many working-class communities.

    Amanda Rain is a community organizer who co-created a series of six educational events on sexual assault in response to several call-outs In multiple Portland communities in 2015. She has participated in multiple efforts to bring about accountability in instances of abuse. Amanda founded Speaking the Unspeakable® in 2012 to inspire the courage to confront our challenges and empower our lives through effective communication. Her unique blend of rhetorical studies,speech communication, debate, activism,political advocacy, and life experience,weaves together a potent journey of personal and collective growth.

    Chris Huffine, Psy.D., licensed psychologist, has worked with abusive men for the past 25 years. He is the Executive Director of Allies in Change in Portland,Oregon. During his career he has worked with thousands of abusive men and dozens of female and male victims of abuse. He is considered to be a national expert on working with abusive men and has provided trainings around the country,including a semi-annual 20 hour training in Portland on the Allies in Change curriculum. He is an adjunct faculty member at Portland State University where he teaches an anger management class and speaks on domestic violence. He is a member ofthe advisory group to the Oregon state attorney general to monitor standards for batterer intervention programs and of the Oregon Domestic Violence Fatality Review Team. In addition to his domestic violence work, he does individual and couples counseling on a variety of other issues.